Man-pinion question of the week:
What do women do that has you running for the hills?
In our man-pinion section we take a question from our readers and ask it to a group of men who have, so nicely, volunteered their time and experience to us.
Sunny: “Call two or three times a day the next day, after a first date, and act like you’ve known each other for 3 months. Or they try to be involved in every plan you have right away. It would be better for her to state her interest and just put the ball in the guy’s court. When they try to speed up the relationship it’s a real turn off. What I’m looking for is someone who’s confident in themselves so they don’t need to chase after someone. If she knows and acts like she is worth being chased it makes me want to chase her more.”
Derk: “When you are in a relationship and your girlfriend starts talking about marriage or relationship issues that are much more serious than your current state.”
Follow up question from me: “So when can we talk about marriage or other major relationship steps, or do we need to wait for you to come to us?”
Derk: “There’s no certain point those conversations should come up, but it should be part of a casual and comfortable conversation, not out of the blue – like you’ve been waiting to say it and just blurt it out completely off topic.”
John: “When they start talking about things that are much too personal right away. Like they have an eating disorder or why she left her ex boyfriend…in general giving up much too much information right away. It’s much sexier and much more appealing if the woman leaves some mystery in the relationship and lets me ask the questions later on when I’m curious.”
Michael: “I can honestly not say that I have been in many 'first date' scenarios that would fit into this category. However, from a relationship point I do have some input. The biggest 'freak out' that happened to me was having a girl tell me that she loved me just after a couple months of long distance dating. Just about all of the relationship was long distance, therefore we didn't get to spend that much time together and just after a couple months she dropped that on me. My reply was that it was way too early for me to return the feeling. After that things started to go in opposite directions. Dropping the L-bomb early in a relationship shows a level of uncertainty in my eyes, in that the person has not had the chance to base that emotion on experience of time (how one feels during different times of year, during time of stress, etc)”
It’s very interesting to see that all four Man-Pinion Men answered the question with the same kind of input. That we, the women, try in all sorts of ways to speed up the relationship far faster than our men are ready for. May it be a first date where we are talking to the person like an old friend, divulging information that new people in our lives have no business knowing, or while in a relationship, pushing the next “step” faster than they are ready to handle.
Men like to chase. The right man for you will chase you. Have the confidence to know you are worth being chased and let all those other guys Hear your Heels. Keep that confidence on every first date and while in relationships. Have some patience to let your man catch up emotionally. They work at their own pace, and from their comments, when we try to push them to be ready for more it doesn’t work in our favor.
Never forget the way he treats you is what is most important. As long as you have that does it really matter if you say that “I love you” this month or a few months later? Keep your friends, keep your hobbies, keep your life, and let him find you.
Never forget everything you deserve in life. Click here to purchase Hear my Heels bracelets to remember to keep going towards something better. Please forward this information to all the women you care about.
If you would like to ask our Man-Pinion Men a question please email it to us at: hearmyheels@gmail.com
Hear my Heels ~ The sound of you walking away, smiling, towards something better.
20% of profits are donated to domestic abuse charities.
What do women do that has you running for the hills?
In our man-pinion section we take a question from our readers and ask it to a group of men who have, so nicely, volunteered their time and experience to us.
Sunny: “Call two or three times a day the next day, after a first date, and act like you’ve known each other for 3 months. Or they try to be involved in every plan you have right away. It would be better for her to state her interest and just put the ball in the guy’s court. When they try to speed up the relationship it’s a real turn off. What I’m looking for is someone who’s confident in themselves so they don’t need to chase after someone. If she knows and acts like she is worth being chased it makes me want to chase her more.”
Derk: “When you are in a relationship and your girlfriend starts talking about marriage or relationship issues that are much more serious than your current state.”
Follow up question from me: “So when can we talk about marriage or other major relationship steps, or do we need to wait for you to come to us?”
Derk: “There’s no certain point those conversations should come up, but it should be part of a casual and comfortable conversation, not out of the blue – like you’ve been waiting to say it and just blurt it out completely off topic.”
John: “When they start talking about things that are much too personal right away. Like they have an eating disorder or why she left her ex boyfriend…in general giving up much too much information right away. It’s much sexier and much more appealing if the woman leaves some mystery in the relationship and lets me ask the questions later on when I’m curious.”
Michael: “I can honestly not say that I have been in many 'first date' scenarios that would fit into this category. However, from a relationship point I do have some input. The biggest 'freak out' that happened to me was having a girl tell me that she loved me just after a couple months of long distance dating. Just about all of the relationship was long distance, therefore we didn't get to spend that much time together and just after a couple months she dropped that on me. My reply was that it was way too early for me to return the feeling. After that things started to go in opposite directions. Dropping the L-bomb early in a relationship shows a level of uncertainty in my eyes, in that the person has not had the chance to base that emotion on experience of time (how one feels during different times of year, during time of stress, etc)”
It’s very interesting to see that all four Man-Pinion Men answered the question with the same kind of input. That we, the women, try in all sorts of ways to speed up the relationship far faster than our men are ready for. May it be a first date where we are talking to the person like an old friend, divulging information that new people in our lives have no business knowing, or while in a relationship, pushing the next “step” faster than they are ready to handle.
Men like to chase. The right man for you will chase you. Have the confidence to know you are worth being chased and let all those other guys Hear your Heels. Keep that confidence on every first date and while in relationships. Have some patience to let your man catch up emotionally. They work at their own pace, and from their comments, when we try to push them to be ready for more it doesn’t work in our favor.
Never forget the way he treats you is what is most important. As long as you have that does it really matter if you say that “I love you” this month or a few months later? Keep your friends, keep your hobbies, keep your life, and let him find you.
Never forget everything you deserve in life. Click here to purchase Hear my Heels bracelets to remember to keep going towards something better. Please forward this information to all the women you care about.
If you would like to ask our Man-Pinion Men a question please email it to us at: hearmyheels@gmail.com
Hear my Heels ~ The sound of you walking away, smiling, towards something better.
20% of profits are donated to domestic abuse charities.
