Dear 20 Year Old Me...

Dear 20 Year Old Me,


You are so far off of how your life is going to turn out there is absolutely no point trying to worry about it, and I would appreciate it if you don’t go off getting wrinkles stressing about it. You CAN NOT plan your life. The saying “life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.” …100% true.

Don’t freak out, but you are going to wake up one day 30 and single. No you aren’t damaged goods or some undatable mess. Its just life, luck, growth, and throw in a little of Murphy and his pain-in-the-ass, bite-you-in-the-butt-every-time Laws. Murphy’s an ass, but we can discuss that later.

I’m telling you not to freak out, because I know you can not imagine it now, but you are going to be really happy and content just as you are. Yup. I’m serious. You don’t actually need a man to be happy. Revelation huh?

You have no idea how much you are going to grow and change in your 20’s. At 30 you still have the same qualities of your distant 20 year old self. However you are going to develop new passions, new hobbies, and amazing friendships. And I know you won’t believe me now, but it won’t even give you anxiety to talk to strangers. I know you don’t believe me. I know you can’t see it now, but you will be so amazed how comfortable in your own skin you’ll become in the next 10 years.

You will develop the ability to walk away from relationships which aren’t right for you. Don’t be scared of starting over. I promise it will feel empowering and not lonely. Each time you stand up for yourself you’re going to walk away with a smile on your face. Just trust your gut. Your gut won’t lie to you even when others do.

So if I can give one piece of advice to you now… Please – just enjoy the ride. You worry too much about how your life will turn out and there’s really no need. Stop trying to plan something you can’t plan. Stop force fitting relationships, friendships, and yourself. Just do you. Try hard. Play hard. Find passions. Dance. Have confidence that your hard work, dedication to always trying to do the right thing, and your love for life will lead you in the right direction. Be you, enjoy you, and the world will come to your door.

You have no idea how many amazing possibilities are out there waiting for you. Be exicted. Its one hell of a ride…